In Her Own Words
About her
I love intelligent, wide-ranging conversations with very smart people over a dinner table full of good wine and great home cooking. (Light the house with candles for atmosphere.) I've been in the arts (degrees in fine arts and PhD art history/Africa) but if you are articulate and a philosophical physicist or astronomer or geologist or mathematician - in the sciences of any sort, you'd be first on my small guest list. I'm introverted but can entertain a group as a world class hostess. Currently I write (academic stuff in the previous life, but now I aim toward literary: second novel, "Saltine" (no trauma, self-help or politics... just humor and humanity) released by Otis Books, 2021. I'm traveled (Europe, C Am., Asia, W Africa) but want to do more always with a list, well, to be reactivated as soon as is reasonable. My days of carrying a 40 lb backpack are done, so I'll have to find (and accept) another way.
The world has changed in ways it has to, I guess, but my vision and desires no longer parallel current social/corporate vistas. I feel displaced in my own era. What to do? Live and try to add goodness to our days whenever possible because they are worthless without that. I'm hoping for a shared, creative/intellectual/sensual connection, with even more significant, perhaps, shared values, perspectives, curiosities and trajectories. If it is out there...
About her ideal match
You could be somewhat obsessed by your own pursuits, but also interested in mine. We've no need to control one another. You can see humor, however dark, in most situations and have a deep appreciation for the absurd; we'd both see it, and acknowledge it with a knowing glance. You are capable and opinionated, but flexible and willing to shift your position if convinced. You resist encroaching curmidgeonhood by your willingness to take considered risks. You know yourself, can express yourself with kindness, and have no unspoken agendas. The glass isn't half full; it's bubbling and brimming and overflowing with whatever we put into it (so let's fill it with wonder, pleasure, love, depth, integrity, and all that life affirming beauty). You like to travel, are willing to 'rough' it as appropriate, and appreciate how privileged a life we north Americans live (from turning a tap for drinking water to the choices in life we have). You can be playful and mostly full of joy.
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About her
Country of origin: |
United States | |
Location: |
Portland, Oregon | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
70 | |
Height: |
5' 6" (168cm) | |
Body type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Above Average | |
Hair colour: |
White | |
Eye colour: |
Hazel | |
Relationship Status: |
Widowed | |
Looking for: |
Friends; Let's see what happens | |
Have children: |
Yes, not living with me | |
Want children: |
No | |
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Occasionally | |
Education: |
Postgraduate | |
Occupation: |
Arts / Music / Writing | |
Income: |
Enough | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
French; German; Italian | |
Religion: |
Other |
About her ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in North America | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age range: |
65 - 78 | ||
Height: |
5' 6" (167cm) - 6' 11" (210cm) or taller | ||
Body type: |
Average; A few extra pounds; Large; Stocky | ||
Looks: |
Any | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Slightly important | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have children: |
No; Yes, not living with me; Yes, living with me sometimes | ||
Want children: |
No | ||
Daily diet: |
Eat most things; Eat healthily; Vegetarian | ||
Smoking: |
Never; Occasionally | ||
Drinking: |
Never; Occasionally; Several times a week | ||
Education: |
Further education; University; Postgraduate | ||
Occupation: |
Arts / Music / Writing; Legal; Medical / Dental / Veterinary; Political / Government; Retired; Self-employed; Teaching / Education / Training; Science / Engineering / Research; Other; Public sector | ||
Income: |
Solvent; Enough; Comfortable; Wealthy | ||
Ethnicity: |
Any | ||
Home language: |
Any | ||
Other languages: |
English; French | ||
Religion: |
Agnostic; Atheist; Buddhist / Taoist; Christian / Catholic; Christian / Protestant; Christian / Other; Hindu; Jewish; Spiritual, but not religious; Other |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about her
Sense of humour: |
Irreverent |
Intelligence: |
Intellectually Challenged |
Ruled by: |
Happiness |
Party behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality traits: |
Adventurous; Confident; Faithful; Funny; Generous; Happy; Independent; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Optimistic; Outspoken; Philosophical; Thoughtful; Trustworthy; Wild |
Valued qualities: |
Chemistry; Compassion; Faithfulness; Honesty; Hope; Humility; Humour; Kindness |
Fashion sense: |
Alternative (I'm stylish in my own special way) |
Favourite clothing: |
Anything, as long as it's black |
Favourite colour: |
Green |
Is the glass half full or half empty: |
Depends what's in it |
Hair style: |
Medium; Long; Straight; It has its moods |
Eyesight: |
I wear glasses only when reading |
Body art: |
Pierced ears; A tattoo or two |
Date activities: |
A music concert; A picnic in a park; Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk |
Music preferences: |
Alternative; Blues; Classical; Country & Western; Folk; Jazz; Opera; Rock; World |
Reading: |
I read books regularly; I read newspapers regularly; I read magazines occasionally |
Books: |
(Auto)biographies; Fiction; Mystery; Non-fiction; Science / Technology |
TV habits: |
I don't have a television |
TV programmes: |
Documentaries; Dramas; Educational; Nature/Wildlife |
Movie frequency: |
I wait for movies to come out on DVD or online. |
Interests: |
Cooking; Gardening; Healthy living; Meditation; Music; Painting; Politics; Pottery; Reading; Singing; The arts; Voluntary work; Writing books |
Sport involvement: |
Not involved at all |
Sports: |
Camping; Canoeing; Fishing; Hiking; Sailing; Snorkeling; White water rafting; Yoga |
Cooking: |
I really enjoy cooking |
Food: |
Chinese; French; Gastro Pub; German; Greek; Indian; Italian; Japanese; Pub Grub; Seafood; Sushi; Thai; Vietnamese |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Go with the flow |
Time at work: |
I work at home |
Pastimes of choice: |
Reading a book |
Time online: |
I'm on several hours a day |
Family size: |
I've got a sister |
Family contact: |
I see them when I can |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'd consider it |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Dog(s); Fish; Horse(s) |
Pets (Dislike): |
Exotic pet(s); Reptile(s); Rodent(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Dancing; Flirting; Intelligence |
Turn-offs: |
Power |
Work aspirations: |
I already have my ideal job |
Dream home: |
On a beach |
Religious attendance: |
Never |
Politics: |
Left of centre |
Retirement plans: |
Sailing the seven seas |
Feelings about using Science Lovers: |
Curious; Optimistic |
Honesty: |
Extremely |